behind closed doors.
Josh and I sat down the other night to watch a movie. We chose “The Dilemma” with Vince Vaughn and Kevin James (2 of my husband’s favorite comedians/actors). Vince Vaughn’s character finds out that his best friend’s (Kevin James) wife is cheating on him, and he must decide when and how to tell him. He first decides to confront James’s wife (played by Winona Ryder) to which she tells Vaughn, “you don’t know what goes on behind closed doors.”
It got me thinking….no, I’m not about to confess that I’m cheating on my husband or that he’s cheating on me or that we have a weird relationship. We have a perfectly normal, happy relationship….
How many times do we assume we know what someone does in their life, or what they’re thinking, what they’re like…and how far off base are we?
A lot of people label me as, well to be honest, kinda bitchy cause I stand up for what I believe in and for what I think and feel to be right. I don’t like confrontation, but I don’t hide from it either. I’m just a passionate person with a lot of opinions. However, I am a very compassionate person too, and where I may seem to have a hard exterior, I’m a softy on the inside. Yes, I’m the girl that will get into a fight at a wake and then cry enough for everyone in attendance 10 minutes later. I’m the girl that will get into someone’s face but then cry later because I don’t want them to not like me!
I became an Aunt last month. My first nephew, Jude. A beautiful little boy, and I adore him so much, but I have to admit, learning of my in-law’s pregnancy was hard, and watching it happen was hard because my husband and I have been married for almost 6 years (4 more years than they proud new parents), we’ve been trying to have kids for at least 5. I was never not happy for my in-law’s, I was thrilled for them, but I was sad at the same time. What is amazing to me is the amount of people who say, “oh we thought you guys would be first” or “you’ll be next, but you’re probably thinking no way, I don’t want kids” or people who ask my mother-in-law how it feels to “FINALLY be a grandma” etc…..truth is…my husband and I DO want kids, and we have been trying. It just amazes me that people make these comments assuming that we don’t want kids because we haven’t had any yet…and some of these people are family….shouldn’t they know us better than that? Which brings me back to my original point of this blog…you never know what people are going through….or what they do in their private lives.
I feel like there are only a couple people who know me really well. I don’t even think my family members all get me or know me that well, especially those who only see me in small doses. Sometimes, I feel like I don’t even fully know or understand myself!